You want to know how to get a guy to miss you or how to get a girl to miss you.
I don’t blame you. Your ex has to miss you in their life to want to come back to you or else, why would they?
What would be the point? What would be their motivation?
How To Make Him Miss You / How To Make Her Miss You
Most people who have been broken up with live in conflicting schools of thought:
On one hand, they want to make their ex miss them badly, but the typical actions of someone who has been dumped overwhelm their ex with their presence, preventing that person from ever having the opportunity to miss them.
The dumped person will constantly call, text, beg, plead, cry, show up at their ex’s home or work place and all of it only serves to prevent your ex from missing you.
It has the exact opposite effect in a strong way.
Why does this matter?
So you have come here wanting to know how to make your ex miss you, want you back, and to regret losing you.
You want to know how to make him miss you or how to make her miss you badly.
The answer is one that you probably won’t like.
You have to disappear.
That means that to make your ex miss you, you don’t let them hear from you.
You are no longer part of this person’s life (not forever, but temporarily).
How To Make Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Miss You After A Breakup
You should implement the tried-and-true no contact rule, meaning that you do not call, text, message on social media, like or respond to their posts, and you don’t make posts acknowledging your ex or the breakup in any way (no social pouting).
I hope that’s clear enough, because you’d be surprised how people will use their desire for contact with their ex as an excuse to break the no contact rule as though they found a loophole.
If you do that, you’re only hurting your chances of getting back with your ex!
You might even be destroying your chances because your silence is key.
How To Make Your Ex Miss You
When you back away from your ex and disappear from their life, you give them the opportunity to miss you because you are not there.
A boyfriend or girlfriend has to notice and they have to experience the consequences of their decision to break up with you in order to miss you.
You want to know how to make your ex want you back and I’m here to tell you that they have to know what it’s like not having you in order for that to happen.
You must stop acting like this person’s lover completely.
No gifts. No physical contact. Just silence and your absence.
That is how to make your ex miss you, long for you, and regret losing you.
Make Your Ex Miss You
Here’s the deal:
If you see a boyfriend or girlfriend in public, I’m not suggesting you ignore him or her because that would look rude and immature.
It would actually be showing them that you are not in a good place (and you want them to at least believe that you are in a good place).
So if you see them out somewhere and come face to face with them, smile, and say something like, “Hey, good to see you. I hope you’re doing well. I’ve got to run but take care.”
If you haven’t seen them in a while maybe add, “I’ve got to run but let’s catch up sometime.”
That’s it. Then just casually walk away. (Does he miss me during no contact?)
If you are in class with your ex, be smart in avoiding the potential for face to face contact. Sit far away from them if possible.
Wait until they leave the room before you leave to ensure you don’t get near them.
How To Make Your Ex Miss You Over Text
People constantly search the Internet for cleverly worded texts that will make their ex miss them.
Coaching clients routinely ask me if texting their ex certain things can get their ex to miss them and want them back.
But as I’ve said in other videos and posts, there’s no short cut to getting this to happen.
You don’t want your ex feeling you are pursuing them and that means by you sending them texts.
Any reaching out on your part simply gives them relief and makes them far more likely to think that they could get you back in a snap.
That removes all pressure (the good kind) and shelters them from the consequences of the breakup.
If you want your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to miss you, do not text that person.
Let them hear the buzz of their phone with a notification or text from someone else and as they pick up their phone they’ll see that it’s not a text from you.
They will be used to getting texts from you so not getting them will be something they notice and feel.
This creates disappointment in their mind simply because what is happening is not what they expected (it’s an odd psychological phenomenon).
So while I could make up some clever texts to send, no matter what was said would actually be hurting your cause.
A coaching client once asked me how she could make her boyfriend miss her after their breakup (he broke up with her).
She lamented that she had constantly texted him several times a day and didn’t understand why that wasn’t working to make him miss her and to make him want her again.
Your ex needs to feel what it’s like to be broken up with you in order for them to decide they don’t want the breakup after all and want to come back to you. This is how to get your ex to want you back.
If you are still there, they are getting to be on both sides of the fence in a way or at least it will feel like that to your ex.
You want the breakup to be difficult for them in this way. If they cared about you at all and if you two had been together for a decent amount of time – say at least 2 months – then it will be difficult for an ex if you are silent and are no longer there.
But so many people who want to get their ex back overwhelm them with their presence and eventually the ex becomes so annoyed that they don’t just NOT miss you but it takes them much longer to develop feelings of missing you.
Rather than want you back, even more than before, they want to be away from you.
It will take longer for them to miss you if those feelings are even still possible anymore.
Relax, most likely those feelings of missing you are still possible, but in order to have the best chance of getting your ex back, you have got to back away completely immediately.
That is how to make your ex miss you badly.
I encourage you to read one or both of the following articles to help you more in your situation:
To get my help with your specific situation and a tailored map to getting your ex back, schedule a coaching session with me.
If you want to know how to get your ex to want you back, I’ve spelled it out in this post.
I know it’s difficult, but I’m being honest with you.
Many people contact me and say, “I want to know how to make my ex miss me.”
You need to be focused and determined in the approach provided in this article.
Don’t allow yourself to back down or give into panic, emotions, or desperation. It simply won’t work.
Stay calm, stay silent, and follow the guidance of this article to have the best chance of getting your ex back for the long term by making him/her miss you.
The pattern of what works is clear and that is what I’ve shared with you to help you get your ex back. I highly recommend my Emergency Breakup Kit to give you the best chance possible of getting your ex back. No matter what, I wish you the very best.